They say that forgiveness is a gift to self, to move forward. For those who have had trauma, forgiving themselves may in fact be harder than forgiving anybody who has hurt them. The messages, perceptions and interpretations of thoughts, decisions, behaviours and actions have become so confused, they make the victims see themselves as being as bad as the original perpetrator.
Part of the work we do together is to look at these things, to reframe them, to see them differently and to change the relationship with them. You can only heal the wound if you take a look at it, if you examine it.
Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a different meaning.
It takes courage and bravery to feel deserving and worthy of self care. But I can assure you, it is so beneficial to learn how to do this for yourself. Once you know it, you can never un-know it.