A dialog I had recently with one of my clients about control:

I cannot go into hypnosis (aka deep relaxing state), I am overthinking, I cannot lose control.
Okay, tell me one thing you have control over.
Well, I have control over everything in my life.
Can you describe everything?
……
Tell me, do you have anger in your life?
Yes.
Do you have any control over it?
….No…
Do you have sadness in your life?
Yes.
Do you have any control over it?
I want to have control…
So, you have no control……..
Do you have love in your life?
…I think so
Do you think you have any control over it?
I don’t know…
Yet, there is one thing you CAN have control over. Do you want to know what it is?
Yes.
The only thing you can control is your thoughts.
Your thoughts control your feelings.
Your feelings control your actions and
Your actions control the events in your life.